Monogram Etiquette: What You Need to Know

October 17, 2024

Monogram Etiquette: What You Need to Know Before Gifting

Monogrammed gifts are timeless, elegant, and deeply personal, making them perfect for any occasion. However, to ensure your gift is both thoughtful and appropriate, there are some key rules of monogram etiquette to keep in mind. Here’s what you need to know before ordering a monogrammed gift:

Traditional Monogram Styles

Monograms are typically composed of a person’s initials and can be arranged in various formats, depending on the recipient and the item. The most common styles include:

1. Traditional Three-Initial Monogram (First, Last, Middle): This is the classic format, where the last name initial is centered and slightly larger. For example, Caroline Grace Stewart would be monogrammed as CSG, with the "S" larger in the middle.
2. Block Initial Monogram (First, Middle, Last): This popular style features all initials in the same size. For example, Caroline Grace Stewart would be monogrammed as CGS, with all letters equal. This style can also be simplified to two initials, such as the first and last name.
   
3. Single Initial: A versatile option for smaller items like small makeup bags or keyrings, or as a bold statement on hand towels, using just the first or last name initial.
4. Two-Initial Monogram: This style typically uses the first and last initials, often in an overlapping design. It's ideal for couples’ gifts or individuals with just two initials.

We offer a variety of options for each of these styles, which are displayed in the photos for each product on our site.

Monogram Styles for Specific Recipients

When choosing a monogram style, it’s essential to consider the recipient. Here are some guidelines to help:

1. Gender-Specific Monogram Etiquette
• Men's Monograms: Traditionally, men’s monograms followed the order of first, middle, and last name, with all letters the same size. For example, John Edward Doe would be monogrammed as JED.
• Women's Monograms: Typically, women’s monograms use the classic three-initial format, with the last name initial in the center and larger. For instance, Jane Emily Doe would be monogrammed as JDE.
• Modern Flexibility: Today, both men’s and women’s monograms can be customized in either format, allowing for greater personalization based on preference.

2. Monograms for Couples Monogramming gifts for couples is common for weddings, anniversaries, or housewarming presents. Traditionally, the woman’s first initial is placed first, followed by the couple’s shared last name in the center, and the man’s first initial last. For example, Megan and David Tucker would be monogrammed as MTD.
   However, modern couples often prefer alternative styles, such as using both partners’ last name initials or just their shared surname. These guidelines apply to same-sex couples as well.
3. Children’s Monograms When monogramming for children, especially newborns or toddlers, the format usually follows adult rules. Many opt for a single initial, the full name, or just the child’s first name initial on items like bibs and blankets.

Consider the Item and Style

The type of item you're monogramming plays a significant role in determining the most suitable monogram style and placement:

1. Item Selection:
• Accessories such as makeup bags, totes, and dopp kits are flexible with monogram styles. Larger items like tote bags work well with larger, bolder designs, while smaller bags look best with simpler styles.
• Household Items like towels offer a variety of design possibilities. Choose between intricate designs or a simple single initial, depending on your preference.
• Children's Items like hooded towels and bibs are opportunities for more playful, whimsical monogram designs.

2. Font Size and Style: Choose a monogram font that reflects the recipient’s personality and the occasion. Elegant script fonts are often preferred for weddings and formal occasions, while block fonts work well for casual or everyday items. The size of the monogram should also be proportional to the item—our 20 years of monogramming experience have helped us develop specific formulas for size and spacing to ensure the best results.
3. Personal Preference Matters: While monogram etiquette provides guidance, the recipient’s personal style should always take priority. Whether they prefer a modern, minimalist design or something more traditional, we offer a wide variety of options to help you create the perfect personalized gift.

Conclusion

Monogrammed gifts carry special meaning, but following proper etiquette ensures they’re both tasteful and appreciated. Whether you’re gifting for a wedding, birthday, or holiday, keeping these guidelines in mind will help you create a beautiful, thoughtful, and uniquely personalized present.